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Grooming

Freshly washing hands and a swig of the provided minty mouthwash upon arrival put me at ease. If you’ve just escaped work, I have a full washroom just for you, that’s stocked with unscented toiletries. I, too, strive to be unscented, for both your discretion and any allergies.

Apparel requests

I welcome apparel requests, especially for longer dates. My default is classic black, natural makeup, and heels. If there’s a look that stood out to you on X (formerly Twitter), or a hue you prefer (other than pink/purple), I’m happy to accommodate.

If you’re so inclined to don some novelty socks for our date, I’ll be highly amused.

Privacy

I treat all dates as if an NDA were in place, but I’m more than happy to make it legally binding. I encourage you to use ProtonMail for secure, end-to-end encrypted email communication. ProtonVPN is also a great choice.

Food and Beverages

If you imbibe, you’re absolutely welcome to bring something you enjoy (although I bet you’ll find me more disarming than even the stiffest drink). I take an interest in expanding my knowledge of spirits, but I’m not much of a casual drinker anymore because it dawned on me that my personality stays the same (very enthusiastic) with or without liquid encouragement. I make exceptions for Tobala mezcal (my first love), Blanton’s bourbon, and scotch from Islay. If arriving without a token bottle of wine feels insurmountably gauche and would disappoint your ancestors, please rest assured that I’m entirely happy with good old NYC tapwater. Otherwise, you’re welcome to place extra wine cash in an envelope for my favorite indulgence – outlandish personal travel (Antarctica is next).

I do have a few food sensitivities, which I’m always able to navigate subtly and without a fuss. But if you must know, they’re mostly as follows:

Chocolate, food coloring, garlic, onions, sodium nitrate (used to cure meat. Translation: I’ll make quite a dent in the cheese and crackers on a charcuterie board, if you help with the meat)
I never tire of sushi and find it wildly conducive to dates, as it’s light. Anything from grocery store sushi to omakase brings a genuine smile to my face. If you’re less keen on raw fish, please send me two options of your favorites.
If you’re in the mood to throw caution and cholesterol to the wind, I also love a classic steak.